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Better Communications – A Real Health Need

Posted on 17 September, 2014 at 19:53 Comments comments (2)
In this article I wish to share the need for closer communications with Family and Friends. How modern day living has affected our real living patterns and some things we can do about it.

This actually does have a bearing on our physical, mental and emotional health.
Often times, you do not need a medical practitioner or psychologist. Rather, we need to Restore some of the Vital Basics at Home.


A very good friend phoned me yesterday and I did not enjoy the quality of conversation I look forward to with her. She had been stressed through the week and I was very tired from late nights working on my websites to inspire her like I usually would have. I missed our usual imput because we enjoy a good conversation – it felt like she had not phoned yet and it's another two weeks until we get together again.

Often, that's the way it is at home with family and also with friends because we do not get to communicate closely on a real level and something is missing. It's usually due to the rush and bustle of modern day living and many of us have not learned to do this in our upbringing – traditions carry on whatever they've been. Our family lacked this and did not know the art of listening to each other. However we have in recent years. We've been working at our communications and now they are going nicely.


It's a day when TV and computers get in the way and we don't think of much to say, much less have a meaningful or close conversation. Believe me, this makes for stress and we would fret less if we take some time to have these conversations. So many reserve their words for every day problems and getting things off their chest. Even friends these days, spend a lot of time discussing their problems instead of enjoying a visit. They will sit down talking about stressful situations or the world around them.


You know, we could do something we enjoy together, go for a walk in the park, chit chat while making a meal or snack together? And this is good for families as well.

These days, parents will be out in public somewhere with their kids and technology rules_ the kids are texting friends over their cell phones while having a meal out. Friends dining out are up to the same thing when they meet together, just different kind of messages. Many people don't know what it is anymore to go out and enjoy a meal on their own quietly, savoring their food. Even diners and restaurants have added to this by putting radios and TVs where we go to enjoy a meal. What's wrong with a good healthy conversation? Do we need background noise in the name of entertainment to be comfortable in conversation? I say NO! What's wrong with us and the restaurant for putting up with and providing this mass distraction? You can't even go to restrooms in public anymore without this phenonema in many shopping centres. Honestly, things have become so depersonalized these days_ the family unit investing little time together, friends sharing stress hoping to suffer less, expectations that are placed on us when we go out and the unruly influence of media. Is'nt that right? Many of us can relate to that......hey?


So we need to set the standards_ make a few and keep them. Return to the good old fashion ways where possible. That means to improve on communications and the time we give to this......making our family and friends time more meaningful in closer ways.We were created for close communications and to Enjoy each other. When this need is not met we're half empty on the inside.....we try to fill this space with material things, achievements and all manner of things to try and satisfy that unmet need. And why don't we make some space for God our Creator? He is and wonderful Father and friend to have.... honestly, He fills a spot in our hearts that no-one on this earth can fill. You can sense His presence 24/7


Many people don't know what it is to go on true family outings these days, and teenagers seek to compensate for this by living it up on fun things (whatever they perceive to be fun). So often, when young people go out it's packed with sensation and lacks reality. Mind you, TV and modern living have a lot to do with this – I'm sure you agree – and leave a lot to be desired. When is the last time you sat around the table enjoying a nice meal together and how many times a week do you do this?


Honestly friends, everything's out to get your attention these days! Say NO to it and start to LIVE. Then life gets sweeter, it really does. You can feel once more – maybe the first time – that Life's worth Living!



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When Sharing the Good News of Jesus

Posted on 17 September, 2014 at 19:28 Comments comments (10)

Many people have commented through the years about the Natural way I share Jesus and that they find my company "pleasant".
It is important to realize the  Expression of Jesus has been hindered in the lives of many Christians because the modern day way of getting together has altered drastically when Constantine changed things in 330AD after Christ came. I want to tell you something, and it's this_ JESUS did not want things that way much less commission it.

Constantine was self-commisioned and much of the LIFE in Christianity went out of it.....so we have what we face Today: uninviting to people and to Christians often - they feel stifled by this, unable to breathe, so to speak.

I will share with you a Refreshing View. Come with me.


I like to inspire Christians to share about Jesus in a natural way. It could be conversing naturally in a supermarket or when walking in a park. People are so tired of being badgered with religion and often take the Gospel as religious. But who does'nt like a good story (a personal testimony) that is shared with wisdom and sensitivity? You know, the word Gospel actually means Good News? And it was just that 2,000 years ago when Jesus and His followers introduced it. I mean to say, there were Christian gatherings in houses then with family, friends and fellow Christians. Their numbers grew more by the day because their neighbors and people in their community sought them out. There was much joy and gladness. They would share meals together and sing songs of praise to a wonderful Creator and Savior.


Jesus was the centre of attraction for them, not programs, preachers and sermons.....but they loved the words of Jesus that were shared with joy from house to house. They loved to pray – without religious bondage like the pharisees (religious people of that time). Whole families came to Jesus because the atmosphere was healthy. Yes, before Christianity became institutionalized through the Roman emperor Constantine who instigated buildings and hierarchy as we know it today.....Christian gatherings were inviting to people around because of the new found Love, Joy and Peace in the lives of those who had found Jesus.


Constantine was not really good for Christianity as some suppose because he brought a whole lot of bondage to it that basically kicked the real LIFE out of it and there have been so many religions since then, you can't blame people for not wanting it – they have enough bondage in the world. But they usually don't mind a good healthy testimony – they like to hear some good news! But be careful how much time you take and make things short and sweet. This way they can feel free to remember it as a pleasant interaction. When you have shared your story with sensitivity to their response, trust the Spirit of God to go with that person because He is capable of blessing those words to that person in a timely way. He spoke to my heart once after a man in the market enjoyed something I shared with him “people have a problem with religion but not with Jesus” and I have found this to be true.


A FRIEND OF MINE SHARES SOME EXCITING NEWS ABOUT A CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP SHE GOES TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CITY. BOTH HELEN AND MARK OWN A DAIRY FARM WITH COW SHARES SO PEOPLE FROM MILES AROUND CAN HAVE REAL MILK JUST LIKE THEY DO. THEIR SON HAS STARTED RACING CARS (he has a sponsorship for this) AND SHINES FOR JESUS IN AN AREA OF HIS PASSION. IN FACT, OTHER FRIENDS OF THEIRS FROM THIS FELLOWSHIP ARE GOOD AT SHOWING HOSPITALITY. THEY INVITE SOMEONE DIFFERENT HOME ON CERTAIN WEEKENDS OR WEEKDAYS TO SHARE A MEAL (buffet or roast whatever) AND SHOW KINDNESS TO THOSE WHO LIVE ON THEIR OWN. DIFFERENT ONES ARE INVOLVED IN COMMUNITY PROJECTS WITH A DIFFERENCE. IN FACT TWO DIFFERENT COUPLES HAVE RESTORED BARN DANCES (known as the Square Dance) IN THEIR AREA! SOME OF THE YOUNG PEOPLE LOVE ARTS AND CRAFTS. THIS IS REFRESHING, I LOVE TO HEAR OF SUCH THINGS.

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The effect of Negative Words on our Health

Posted on 17 September, 2014 at 19:00 Comments comments (4)

Have you ever experienced the draining effects of Negative Thoughts and Words?
And we all said "YES"
Well this article is written so we can have a closer look at them, in relation to health.
But also the pleasing contrast of Healthy Thoughts and Words!

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Our words can lift us up or weigh us down. So can the words of others – like second hand smoke. You're not the one smoking but you still get the effects of it.

Some of us know that the words of others can weigh you down but fail to realize the power of their own words. Good news.... they can lift you up just like a happy person can. Yes, you can cheer yourself with the words you speak if you choose them wisely.

The power of negative words on our health has now been discovered by Neuro-Psychologists. Even Neuroscientists have found that the words we speak can effect us physically for good and not so good. And just like the Bible (not religion, but a handbook for life) said the earth was round before Christopher Columbus discovered it, there was a bible proverb that says “we eat the fruit of our words”.....that is to say, from our negative words there is bitter fruit; from words of strong emotions there is sour fruit; from our healthy words there is sweet fruit. Yes, from the words we speak, there can be wholesome or luscious fruit_ just like the words of others to our hearing.

Have you ever found that negative or unhealthy words of someone over a length of time can wear you down – mentally, physically or emotionally, even all three? Yes, even to the point of 'burn out' a type of exhaustion or adrenal fatigue. Even words at the moment, can be upsetting or depressing. What impact does all this have on our health? Neuro-Psychologists and Neuroscientists say it does, just like our Creator said through His inspired Word.

So it is good to help ourselves to a good serving of fruit each day, with the words of ourselves and others and dispense of the not so good before it reaches our mouths or our ears. Sometimes this is not altogether possible with the words of others, so we need to 'guard our hearts' when they speak; set boundaries if we can or maybe limit the amount of how much we hear. It is good in these cases to compensate with the words we hear ourselves speaking; to meditate on happy and wholesome things and balance their company with more cheerful company. Sometimes we can change the course of conversation with someone and guide their thoughts with better words we can speak. Yes, we can make them happy instead of sad or show them that we like to engage in better conversation where the imput is more positive.

Some people have an appetite for unhealthy conversation – even spreading it. For our health's sake, we need to avoid these people, like a restaurant that serves bad food. You would not go back there again, would you? Yet we put up with people so often in the name of good manners. On the other hand, many people are genuinely stressed these days and most of us have times where we are upset. So it's good to show compassion. When doing this, make sure that you've set guidelines for yourself how much you can take. This is good for the other person as well as yourself because we don't want to be helping them to dig a grave for themselves – so to speak – where they feel just as bad after confiding or even worse. Yes, when someone chooses to confide in you, it's good to know they feel better for it and you're not the worse for wear. It's good to have a listening ear, make sure this is beneficial and that you compensate for this afterwards. Don't by any means tolerate boundary violaters_ they're not happy unless they get other people down. They need to learn a lesson.

There is a Bible character by the name of David who was referred to as “a man after God's heart” because he was closely acquainted with Him. David seldom confided in man but verbally confided in God's listening ears, leaving his cares and concerns to Him. When doing this, he would also verbally praise God and magnify Him as greater than his situation and able to meet his need. No wonder the name David means 'God's beloved' …..imagine how He would have loved his prayers!

David also used to “encourage himself in God”. He used to say to himself things like “I will praise God, I will bless His name” that is to speak well of and make Him feel good (while he did this his mind would not be on his problems) and many times he is recorded for saying “the steadfast Love of God endures forever......great is His unfailing Love......and.....His Loving Mercies are new every morning”. He would meditate on the wonders of creation and sing to God (and himself) of His excellent ways. One could rightly say that he knew the power of words and he most certainly practiced the power of choice.

We can also bring cheer to our spirit by making wise choices like this man......hey? There's some really good principles there that the life coaches of today don't teach us. I've practiced these myself by bouncing out of bed singing a joyful song when I woke up with something bothering me. So I know it works because my day was a brighter day. I have even changed a day mid-course (when something disturbed or upset me) this way. You can visit my inspirational website www.inspirationsforyou.net if you wish, that is filled with pleasant poems about nature and God and nature like Helen Steiner Rice wrote and some really good sayings by different writers. People love them! It gives them nice things to think about with lots of beautiful pictures.

I don't like to settle for “this is'nt my day” like we often do because that is like putting in your order for more. Don't concede defeat any time, why not make Him your friend?

We need to uncloak characters like these from religion and benefit from their example. Yes, I don't have any religious persuasion but I do have time for Jesus because I have found Him to be real.

Let family and friends know your comfort zone. There is nothing wrong with this. And we need to respect other's comfort zones. When was the last time our words were not beneficial?

I've written this article for you because I think that negative words have a lot to do with our mood levels, whether those by someone else or our ourselves and have found this to be true. Please keep your comments pleasant or helpful to other readers. 2-8 lines. Thank you for your imput.






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